Externalizing Conversations

Externalizing conversations are therapeutic discussions that help individuals separate themselves from their problems. Instead of viewing issues as part of their identity, they see them as external entities or obstacles. This approach encourages people to discuss their problems objectively, reducing feelings of blame or shame, and empowering them to take control. By personifying issues—like calling anxiety a "gremlin"—clients can better understand and address these challenges without feeling overwhelmed or personally responsible. Externalizing conversations foster problem-solving and resilience by promoting a collaborative, non-blaming perspective.