the split-off self

The split-off self refers to the part of your identity that emerges when you divide your sense of self into separate aspects—such as different roles, feelings, or beliefs—often as a way to manage internal conflicts or emotional pain. This process can create a fragmented view of yourself, where certain traits or experiences are pushed aside or disconnected. While it may temporarily protect you from distress, over time, it can lead to a diminished sense of wholeness and difficulty integrating different parts of your identity, impacting your emotional well-being and relationships.